Avoidant vs. Anxious Attachment—Which Flavor of Chaos Are You Serving?


If you’ve been wondering why your relationships feel like an endless loop of frustration, heartbreak, and WTF moments, let’s get one thing straight: Your attachment style is running the show. And it’s not cute.

Avoidant Attachment—A.K.A. “Stay The Hell Away From My Feelings”

If you:
🚩 Shut down when things get emotionally heavy
🚩 Get the ick when people get “too close”
🚩 Feel suffocated by emotional needs (yours or theirs)
🚩 Pull away the second someone expects emotional vulnerability
🚩 Need excessive independence to feel “safe”
🚩 Sabotage connections just to maintain control

Then congratulations! You’ve mastered the art of emotional escape artistry. But here’s the kicker: That emotional wall you’ve built? It’s not protecting you—it’s isolating you. Healing doesn’t come from running, it comes from sitting with your shit and actually dealing with it.

Anxious Attachment—A.K.A. “Please Don’t Leave Me”

If you:
🚩 Overthink every text, call, and conversation
🚩 Feel like you need constant reassurance or you spiral
🚩 Attach your worth to how much someone else “chooses” you
🚩 Fear abandonment so much that you overextend, overgive, and over-apologize
🚩 Cling to relationships that drain the life out of you
🚩 Accept breadcrumbs because at least it’s something

Then welcome to the emotional rollercoaster of Anxious Attachment! The problem? You’re placing your security in someone else’s hands instead of your own. You don’t need to be “chosen” to be worthy. You need to learn how to sit with yourself and heal that wound instead of chasing validation like a damn drug.

So, What Now?

Whether you’re running for the hills or clinging for dear life, neither is doing you any favors. Healing your attachment style isn’t about finding “the right person” to fix you—it’s about fixing your own damn self.

🔥 This is where my Relationship & Self-Care Guidance session comes in.
I’m not here to sugarcoat or hold your hand through self-delusion. I’m here to help you unravel this attachment mess, reclaim your energy, and stop repeating the same tired relationship patterns.

You ready to stop letting your attachment wounds call the shots? Or are you gonna keep playing the same dysfunctional game? Your choice.

www.phoenixrebirth.life/services/

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